It is often said that although Introverted people are not many words, their «I love yous» are usually the most sincere.
It is a cliché, because first of all andIt is necessary to clarify that each person experiences emotional relationships in a different way, and that «I love you» can be sincere in any type of personality.. Now, having pointed out this aspect, we could undoubtedly say that introverts have another way of processing their environment, of feeling it and of experiencing personal relationships at a different pace, with other patterns that sometimes differentiate them from the rest.
In our space we have talked to you on occasion about the traits that usually define introverted people. On this occasion, we go a little further and enter the paths of love. Don’t hesitate to give us your opinion either.
Love in introverts: 5 aspects to take into account
The introverted personality has attracted great interest in recent decades. With books such as «The Power of Introverts» by Susan Cain or «Quietly Influencing» by Jennifer B. Kanhweiler, they undoubtedly reflect the many interesting nuances that usually define these people, on average. In the book «The power of introversion, your inner life is your hidden strength» by Laura Helgoe, she also tells us about those affective touches that are also undoubtedly of great interest.
Let’s now look at some basic characteristics of love in introverts.
1- Finding a partner and the need for solitude: two complex spaces
There are those who are lucky. That observant gaze that is located at the end of the classroom or that usually goes unnoticed in work environments, suddenly connects with someone almost automatically, magically.
Now, we can also find those introverts who, despite enjoying their moments of partying and socializing, are more likely to spend weekends at home, in its world, in its subtle and perfect balance. How to find a partner if you don’t relate too much?
There are introverts who don’t care too much. Love arises at the most unexpected moment, there is no rush. Others, on the other hand, must deal with their need for solitude with the desire to find a partner: there is no choice but to socialize, although the always crowded field of social networks and portals to find a partner are usually an option.
2- The connection with an introvert: something intense
Extroverted people tend to be more risky and direct. They are a challenge and establish a type of seduction very different from the introverted personality.
Connecting emotionally with an introvert is like solving a puzzle, like entering a castle where we meet someone authentic, sincere and close. There are no appearances, and this connection is usually very intense.
One aspect to take into account and that should be demolished is that the introvert is not «shy.» It usually takes a little more to get to know him/her, to get him/her to open up, but when he/she does, the bond is intense.
3- The introvert is more empathetic
We cannot generalize 100%, but one of the characteristics of the empathic personality is that it establishes a better connection with itself, with its identity, with that inner world where it finds calm and balance.
Since he has a great knowledge of that emotionality, He also understands the couple’s emotions much better. His world goes at a different pace, he is more patient and connects better.
4- Respect spaces, trust, do not control
It is clear that we can all feel jealous, but the characteristics of that pathological jealousy that obsesses, controls and does not allow the private spaces of the couple, are more common in the most immature, insecure personalities and with low self-esteem.
The introvert understands the importance and value of those own spaces, to have moments for oneself to promote personal growth. Therefore, he will be a good accomplice with whom there is usually no room for mistrust or jealousy. He or she can become a great companion, a good partner with whom to grow emotionally.
5- Introverts and extroverts can be good couples
Did you doubt it? Anyone who thinks that introverts are only attracted to people with the same psychological traits as them is wrong. In fact it is common that extroverts and introverts create a relationship with great harmony where some aspects are completed with others. It may take some time to achieve this camaraderie, there is no doubt, there will be many conversations, arguments and differences, but they usually make a good team.
Is this your case? Do not hesitate to leave us your comments and remember our article on the 3 signs that usually define unconditional love.