Loneliness is sometimes related almost instantly to psychological problems such as depression, need for isolation, chronic sadness, low motivation, dysthymia… All negative aspects that have generally made this concept not well regarded.
If you decide to travel alone, you are reckless. If you feel like spending a weekend alone at home, it’s because your friends have stood you up and you have no other plan. Furthermore, if you tell your partner that «you like to enjoy your moments of solitude», it is because, simply, you don’t want it.
Another aspect that is not understood is the case that many people, far from looking for or needing to have a partner, They find in being single and in their pleased solitude a happiness so subtle that not even society itself can understand.
Are they weirdos? Not at all, the solitude that pleases, that liberates and that entertains is not pathological. On the other hand, that which is not chosen and that suffers from isolation, as is the case of many elderly people, is dangerous.
Today at Supecurioso we want to delve a little into the concept of loneliness. Can you come with us?
I like solitude and I’m not a «weirdo.» You identify?
The pleasure of solitude is usually closely linked to the introspective personality. So much so that even as we explained in previous articles, the brains of introverted people tend to function in a different way, where thehe moments of tranquility and balance with oneself, act almost like the act of «recharging batteries» or vital energy to be able to function normally.
Being surrounded by people or living with many people around us puts us in a state of mental overload that leads us, almost inevitably, to want to escape and enjoy our precious solitude. However, let’s look at more data below, which can help us understand that the pleasure of being alone is not synonymous with being a «weirdo.»
Loneliness equals freedom
Not everyone sees it this way, but loneliness is opportunity, it is freedom of movement, choice and thought. This does not mean that these types of personalities like to share time, emotions and experiences with other people, On the contrary, they love it.
It’s just about balancing both aspects: the public and the private, personal solitude and «controlled» and above all «select» company.
Greater self-knowledge
Whoever spends the day trying to gratify others, please, please, whoever spends the entire day involved in complex conversations, debates, dialogues, listening, discussions or criticism, has little time to «listen to himself.»
The need to have time to organize our thoughts, to listen to ourselves, understanding our needs, dreaming, giving ourselves the pleasure of «flowing» in our own mind, in solitude and enjoying the environment, is sometimes very rewarding.
More creative and productive
Lonely people are generally very creative. They enjoy reading, writing, composing, letting themselves be inspired by nature, by music, by painting. They are relaxed and enlightened brains because they have a great connection with their interior to channel each day, each feeling.
Now, at this point it is worth specifying something important. The taste for solitude should never lead us to isolation, to completely separate ourselves from society. In this case what we would be doing is «running away» and extremes are never good.
The ideal is that we combine both spaces. Solitude is freedom in many cases, it is personal pleasure, but we are social creatures after all, and There is nothing like enjoying good friendships from time to time, going to a party, an event, and having a partner who, in turn, knows how to respect those moments of solitude..
However, we know that it is not always easy, and that sometimes, there are those who still think that loners are «weirdos.» Is this your case? Don’t forget to give us your opinion and remember our article about the curious case of very intelligent people: did you know that they are not always accepted?